A Poem For The Miscarrying Woman
As I light my candle for the Wave of Light 2022, with two wicks to represent the two babies I never got to meet Earthside, I felt compelled to write again. This time a poem, for the woman miscarrying, suffering or recovering - you are not alone.
I am sorry for your loss, and the unbearable amount of pain,
I’m here and I’ll always help you, to catch your breath again.
It’s ok to feel broken, and there’s no judgement it you feel fine
Every emotion is valid, they are authentically yours, not mine.
Speaking of brighter days when your trapped in the torture of now,
Doesn’t help, but I’ll support you, just tell me when and how.
It’s ok to feel angry, and it’s ok if you don’t
Think you’ll feel like this forever? I promise you won’t.
Your trust in hope is broken, and you’ve been betrayed by life
With no reason or explanation, your questions must be rife.
It’s ok if you named your baby, and it’s ok if wasn’t picked out
Your child was real and living, and now your womb is without.
When you cry in the night, and just can’t help, the feeling of being alone
There are others with tears also rolling, to keep company through the unknown
It’s ok to grieve for your future, not being how you thought it might
It all looks pretty bleak now, facing each day will feel like a fight
But you’re part of a group whose hearts look like yours, shattered and broken and sad
They know the pain, the grief and the loss of not carrying what they once had.
It’s ok if you don’t feel quite ready, to speak, or see, or share
Just know that we are ready and open, because we will always care.
Looking for a support network as you navigate this difficult? Please see the resources and work done by these incredible charities:
Miscarriage Assocaition - https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
Tommy’s - https://www.tommys.org/
SANDS - https://www.sands.org.uk/
The Worst Girl Gang Ever - https://www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk/
Saying Goodbye - https://www.sayinggoodbye.org/
Petals Counselling - https://petalscharity.org/
Aching Arms - https://www.achingarms.co.uk/
Baby Loss Awareness - https://babyloss-awareness.org/
